TsheYring: Would you
love the fragrance of flower or its color?
Riku: Color! And both
if given two options. But what trick’s here?
TsheYring: No trick!
Riku: Then? I chose
color…
TsheYring: OK! Now
tell me one thing…
Riku: Sure
TsheYring: If you date
a girl…umm…what would you look into that girl? You’ve just seen that girl
a couple of times
Riku: I go for looks
of that girl, beauty first. But what attracts me afterwards is her personality,
character
TsheYring: Tell me
frankly la…honestly! So…You think firstly a girl has to be pretty to date. Is
that what you want to say, right? And what is a beautiful girl to you?
Riku: Correct! A
beautiful girl is a joy to behold. She is exciting, mesmerizing and is slim,
spotless and stunning of form and of countenance.
TsheYring: Mmm…So you
mean every girl needs to be pretty to go for date?
Riku: For me, it is
must; the first criteria that I look for in a girl to date. But if this pretty
girl appeared dumb, snobbish, immoral or full of vanity or has promising ego
then I may lose interest in her. However, presentable looks can do
TsheYring: Don’t talk
about that right now
Riku: OK! I promise
TsheYring: Mmmm…So now
if I generalize all men want pretty girl for date nee? Can I interpret this
way?
Riku: Don’t. This is
my opinion, but, yeah, most men would rather date a beautiful girl than a less
attractive girl. It is to impress their friends, I think.
TsheYring: Alright!
Particularly for you the looks of a girl is must
Riku: Men go for
pretty girl to date, but for serious relationship they usually go for the
history or character of a girl
TsheYring: Ok, you are
giving me two concepts. Now honestly tell me…
Riku: I will. Ask me,
my opinion, not general
TsheYring: Would you
love a deformed girl?
Riku: Ah! [I scratched
my head] It’s conditional. Umm…[I murmured].
TsheYring: Tell me.
Tell me!
Riku: I can give my
love as a protector, parental one, but as a lover… Ha-ha!
TsheYring: She will be
physically challenged, but has perfect character, pure, lovely and starkly
clean history. Will you date and marry her?
Riku: Hey, I will
relate you an incident. Suppose that I have a beautiful girlfriend or fiancee
or wife but after a few years she meets a dreadful accident which paralyzes or
deforms her. In this case, I will still accept her, love her as before
TsheYring: Listen to
me! She will be untouched, very chaste. Would you accept her, love and live
with her forever?
Riku: Ha-ha!
Tsheyring: You changed
the situation now. So that means the priority is for pretty girls nee?
Riku: Hey, I can’t
date a deformed girl and marry her even if she was chaste or kindhearted. I
can’t. Never!
TsheYring: Tell me,
why do you want to date pretty girls? That means love is only for pretty girls?
Do you think in this world there’s space for only those pretty girls for love
and happiness? Are they just worth?
Riku: Umm… Ugly girl
is simply ugly, doesn’t have outward beauty. If she is beautiful, her beauty is
within. What about you? You go for only good looking men to date?
TsheYring: Answer me, Riku!
But mind you, the success of a relationship is not dependent on the physical
appearance of a girl. What makes girl astounding is not her looks, it’s her
overall outlooks on life. She has true beauty if she has beautiful heart. The
truth is that outward beauty go stale with age. Whereas, inner beauty lasts
forever. Ultimately, what matters is the joy and radiance she brings to your
home and to your life.
Riku: Whatever, you
have strikingly jabbed at me with this pertinent question. This question has to
be asked to all men with such prejudiced perception about girls. However, I can
partly blame our ancestors for prioritizing only those pretty girls. They
should have treated all girls equally, with same respect despite diagnosing
beauty and ugly. So that I wouldn’t have prioritized beautiful girl and feel
disgusted at ugly.
TsheYring: Well,
you’ve rightly pointed my next question. But first, ask yourself. What do you
really want from out of the relationship? A home of happiness and success or a
girl you can stare at all day for her beauty but who doesn’t have a clue how to
make you happy or how to manage a home or simply unfaithful to you.
Riku: But it will be a
difficult for the 21st Century men to change this mentality. It’s ingrained in
our minds.
TsheYring: How do you
define ugly? What is ugly for you? Ha-ha! You know what we called this in
social term?
Riku: Not exactly
TsheYring: Those
people who have such biased perception are known as the people who have VESTED
INTEREST
Riku: Oh! And it also
didn’t spare me. I too profess this belief. Ha-ha! And I see myself as a victim
of this prejudiced perception
TsheYring: Exactly!
You know we people are really hypocrite. We speak good, act generous,
impartial, yet deviant nature or crooked intention lies within us.
Riku: Right. We really
need to change our attitude towards life and society
TsheYring: We are
choosy and hypocrite. We are not what we portray to other. That’s why we are
known as human beings.